The Season to be Realistic


Tis the Season to be Realistic } An Island Family By GraceI started writing this a month ago (on a piece of paper), as a post about our Advent plans for this year. Needless to say, I did not get round to publishing it or even typing it until now! Our ‘new’ baby is now three months old, and blogging has taken a bit of a back seat for me, as I try to fit normal life in between feeds and nappy changes!

We are really enjoying our new daughter/ little sister, and now that I am getting slightly more sleep, I am managing to do things like taking our 8 and 9 year olds to swimming lessons and the like, rather than relying on my husband to do it all.

I have just finished reading Sally and Sarah Clarkson’s book The Lifegiving Home, which is full of ideas for Christ-centred family traditions. Our family has always enjoyed celebrating Advent, particularly since we started home educating. You can see my post on preparing for a Christ-centred Advent last year here.

Personally, I really love this time of year, and the fun of spending time together focusing on our Saviour’s entry into this world as a baby. However, I know that it is not an easy time of year for everyone. If that is you, please read Sarah Behan’s encouraging article for those who are dreading Advent.

I have had to be realistic about what we can accomplish this year. Instead of a new Advent devotional this year, we are using the familiar-to-us but lovely Jesse Tree (see more on this in last year’s Advent post if you want to learn about the Jesse Tree concept).

We are reading aloud Hans Brinker or the Silver Skates, which I downloaded to my Kindle for free. We also have our usual selection of Christmas books on the window sill, and I have been keeping an eye out for one more that I might add this year. I like the look of some of the books that Claire of angelicscalliwags mentions here.

We are also making things that require no advance preparation or input from me, listening to lots of Christmas carols, and watching some of our favourite Christmas films. On the subject of family viewing, Moore Family Films are having a sale on their DVDs between now and December 31st 2016.

Rcommended Family Viewing

More than anything else, I want to foster an atmosphere of love for God and love for each other in our home. If our family traditions at Advent (or at any other time of year) do that, then I will be satisfied, but I am glad of God’s grace not to feel under pressure to reach any particular level of busyness or measurement of achievement against what others are doing.

For our family, ’tis the season to be realistic. Does your family do anything special for Advent? Please leave a comment and let me know.


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10 Comments on “The Season to be Realistic

  1. What a lovely post. Thank you for the reminder to focus on the important things this season (and every season!) We also have a special set of Jesse Tree ornaments we use during our devotion times – it never gets old, building our “tree” and learning the lessons.
    Merry Christmas!

  2. Being realistic about this season means I’ve had to say no to several things but yes to others. Since my children are older now, I plan to have a Christmas scrapbooking day with them this week. We all have artistic bents and usually don’t make enough time to create together. That’s a new tradition I want to begin. Visiting your site from the #mondaymusings linkup. Merry Christmas!

  3. The title of this post hooked me. Too often I set unrealistic expectations at this time of year. I get so busy trying to do it all, and so stressed out about failing, that I don’t enjoy it. And this is my favorite time of the year. So this year I scaled back, a little later than I should have, but it’s been a bit more relaxed since I started being more realistic. And I am noticing that even though we aren’t doing family Christmas devotionals this year, my kids still have a heart for Jesus. Fostering that love for Jesus is less about what we do, and more about who we are. And that is something I needed to remember this year.

  4. Amen!
    We added baby #2 to our family in late November, and that was the year we vowed to do less and enjoy it more. So many things DIDN’T happen that year, but we didn’t even miss them.

    • Sounds good- all our children have been born between mid- September and the end of December, so each time we have had a newborn it has been similar! Merry Christmas Michele 🙂

  5. I read the bible this year and I was convinced after reading it that God probably doesn’t like Christmas. I know…right. I think your going in the right direction to be realistic and not do it all because too much is not of God. We did the Jesse tree at church. The person I bought for asked for a ‘book of stamps’. I was blown away. I thought, wow, some person needs stamps to probably mail thier bills and is on a limited income. This put into perspective to me how too much is not of God. Have a wonderful Holiday season. Yes, I am a realist. lol

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